Thursday, April 9, 2020
When I first started in sales my boss told me to put a picture of something I really wanted on my desk. I remember putting up a house and next to it a car. At that time it never really occurred to me that what I wanted was not that, but what would eventually be in it. As I work today I'm looking at pictures of my family on my desk. My parents, my beautiful wife, my kids all staring back at me. It's a simple reminder of why I do what I do. It's basic really when you strip away all the non essentials. It's us who often try to complicate it. Deep down we all know why we do it. We all have our motivation. We all go about it and are pushed by different things. It's not about what you can get in life, but what you can give. There is no satisfaction, at least I've found, in doing things for yourself if you can't bring others along for the ride. We must celebrate our now. We must be grateful for our present. It's naive to think we are as good as we are going to be, because we all can be better. Better at our awareness. Better at smelling the roses and giving some to those who have no roses of their own. We are creatures of habit, so I pray that our habits change drastically when this is over. That we appreciate our days, our ability to be around the ones that matter, to focus on spending our days with those we live for and those things that bring us to life.
Believe in the Unbelievable that is YOU and my prayer for you today is that you continue to push yourself to whatever you were before this. That you see the reason why and if that doesn't make sense anymore you change it.
Have a blessed and healthy day everyone.
Wednesday, April 8, 2020
People are asking me how do we stop all the negative? How are you dealing with the thought of how contagious this disease is? Well I could say just turn off the news and do what you are told. It's not that easy though. You want to know, you need to understand, you need to be aware. So, you are going to seek that information. That is hard to avoid. It is all how you process it though. In The Art Of Peace by Morihei Ueshiba he says "Your spirit is the true shield." It is! You have the power. Not the news, not what you hear, not how it can all be negatively interpreted for you. He goes on to say, "Even the most powerful human being has a limited sphere of strength. Draw him outside of that sphere and into your own, and his strength will dissipate." That's not just people, but negative energy. If your spirit is right, if you are seeing the good, the blessings, the light in the dark, then as negative things come into your sphere those things won't last. They can't because shadows can't survive when the light covers the room. In that light they, you, those around you will be transformed into positive energy. Energy we all need. Energy that will resonate beyond us. That too is contagious. That too is infectious. For me... That is something we all could benefit from catching.
Believe in the Unbelievable that is YOU and my prayer for you today is that you allow your positive energy to resonate beyond you. That you share your faith, your testimony, your resilience with others. You need it, I need it, we all need it.
Have a blessed and healthy day everyone.
Tuesday, April 7, 2020
You needed it to happen. You wanted that moment where you didn't have to put it off until tomorrow. So, take the moment. Go ahead. Take the breath you need to take. Pray if you need to. Cry if you want. Laugh out loud. Scream. Sleep. Rest. Whatever you need to do, let your soul do it. Now is not the time to hold back, to be confined, to worry what others think of you. Be ok with who you are. Be ok with what you need. Actually, be better than ok. Be confident, honest and transparent with what is going on in you right now. Be intentional in how you respond to it. Now, more than ever, you have to let that guard down and raise your hand if you have something to say, if you need to unload, if you need help. I, in faith, give it to God, but if that's not you than you give it to someone. Talk to your parents, your friends, your spouse, your person, your kids, your family. Open up and just be real. This is our moment to reconnect with ourselves. This may be the first time you ever felt you could. This pause, this slow down, this alignment of what and who matters, this realization that we are not invincible, that others matter, that we must love life, care for each other, give more than ever is happening. So, let it happen. You needed it to happen. Make no mistake, this isn't something to put off until tomorrow. This is our now moment.
Believe in the Unbelievable that is YOU and my prayer for you today is you find that voice you've been waiting for and you listen to it. You let yourself say, become, feel the things you need to during this time and do so with the courage and faith knowing it's ok and you can.
Have a blessed and healthy day everyone. Stay home!
Monday, April 6, 2020
During bible study yesterday morning there was a question about what helps you believe. What takes you to a place where you feel safe and comforted? What's your go-to prayer? I instantly remembered my prayer and my place. Going to Catholic school at St. Mary's I had three very influential people that always believed in me, despite my ability to make it hard to... Sister Carita, Sister Paschal and Mrs. Simcik. Each of them at different junctures in my life seemed to take it upon themselves to push me, pull me, and teach me hard lessons by giving me the tough love I needed. That school gave me so many memories, so many lessons, so many relationships and influences. It's a blessing that it is there doing the same for so many kids today. Then there was my go-to prayer that still takes me back to that place and those people... The Hail Mary. I always found peace and a calming when I said it then and when I say it today. It puts me back in that church, with those people, surrounded by love, by faith, by God's Grace. It wasn't really until the past year and a half that I started to understand God better. The lessons I learned there come flowing in exactly at the moment I need them to. The prayer helps me get my footing and steadies me when I lose my way. As I thought about it today so much came rushing in. God is always at work. His lessons, as I've said before, may take years to get, but we must trust and believe that it is in His time not ours. That makes it beautiful to know that there will always be moments yet to come where our lessons and blessings from God are simply waiting for us to get there.
Believe in the Unbelievable that is YOU and my prayer for you today is my go-to prayer. May it find you comforted and healthy.
Hail Mary, full of Grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen
Have a blessed week everyone.
Thursday, April 2, 2020
" A well-balanced person is one who finds both sides of an issue laughable." - Herbert Procknow
Have you ever just laughed until the point you almost couldn't breathe? I find myself laughing with others more often lately because why not. Someone walked by my office yesterday and said how can you laugh right now? I said how could I not? I'm giving it all to God. My faith is carrying me and honestly laughter brings so much light into any dark moment. Sharing laughter, joy, good vibes, special moments brings a calm and sometimes even helps us escape some of the reality around us. It just provides an energy that resonates beyond us and really is contagious. It provides that sense of comfort that joy is still here, and why not fill up our hearts with that? Sure I know what's going on. I see the numbers, I know the stats, but I also know we will get through it. I may not get to give a high five, shake a hand, give a pat on the back to those I work with, my church family, my friends... but technology let's me see them, call them, keep in contact. In fact, I've learned a lot about some people I haven't had the chance to because we slowed down. I've built relationships with people I'm seeing step up and do things I wasn't aware they could do. So, yes I'm still happy, still feeling positive, still letting joy in and you bet I'm going to keep laughing. Maybe, just maybe, at some point in all this we all will.
Believe In The Unbelievable that is YOU and my prayer for you today is you let yourself see the beauty in those moments that God places in your path to remind you that life is good.
Have a blessed and healthy day!
Wednesday, April 1, 2020
I was feeling pretty mentally worn out yesterday. It happens, and as we go through and try to do all we can we will find those instances where people will do their best to stifle the good. It's part of the process and part of the reality that it's difficult to please everybody. It's even more difficult to help people understand that things we do, things put in place, and set expectations are there sometimes for their own good. I've yet to run into a rule that did not have purpose. We may not like it, but it's there. So, as I let myself get frustrated with the moment and one person draw my attention from all the good, I looked up and saw a quote my mother-in-law wrote for me in 2005. "The unthankful heart discovers no mercies; but let the thankful heart sweep through the day and, as the magnet finds the iron, so it will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings" - Henry Ward Beecher. It reminded me that if we let it there is always bad, negative, frustration to be found... If we let ourselves walk with unthankful hearts or focus on those hearts of others. It's the thankful one that gives us the perspective and attitude we need, especially in times like this, to find the blessings. Thank you God for putting that in my path, and thank you Donna (who I know is reading this) for the reminder even from hundreds of miles away. We love you!
Believe In The Unbelievable that is YOU and my prayer for you today is that you face the day with a thankful heart, giving praise to God for He is good and gratitude to everyone doing all they can to lift so many up.
Have a blessed and healthy day.
Tuesday, March 31, 2020
I talked to my Gpa this weekend. He was telling me about how things were going there. Told me about going to the store early and there was already a line and he was having none of it. Made me laugh and smile. He is 94 and listening to him tell me to take care of myself, that if I needed anything to call him, that he can't wait to see us and have one big party to celebrate everything reminded me of why we must be good to one another. Just care about each other. Why we must be kind, aware, and count our blessings. Why we must help everyone we can when we can. Why when we have more we give to those who don't. He, as he always has, just wants us all to be ok. He, like many people out there, remind us why we must be patient, be vigilant, be content. He needs things I'm sure, but it will always be others first. I miss him. I miss my family. I miss our friends, but we are comforted by God and His Grace. I know this is our time to prove we can and will weather the storm, and like Gpa be the light in the dark and be there when someone needs us. A great reminder that we get to show that we really do understand that "in everything, (we) do to others what (we) would have them do to (us)."- Matthew 7:12
Believe In The Unbelievable that is YOU and my prayer for you today is that you find a moment to give, to appreciate, to count your blessings... There are many.
Have a blessed and healthy day.
Monday, March 30, 2020
We have a problem. We aren't playing a game. This is not a drill. People are getting sick around us. Maybe we don't know them, but someone does. It's one of those situations where you think it's not going to happen to you. You think it won't be anyone you know, until it is. Then what? We are in a position to have an impact, an influence, a moment where we can change the course of the future. We get to determine how this next season unfolds, how the next chapter is written, how our kids, their kids will look back and say we did our part. I know people keep saying this is easy because all we have to do is sit on the couch and watch Netflix. Let's put it on the table. Let's be honest. It's not easy. We all miss interactions. We miss seeing our people. We miss going out, we miss participating, we miss touch. We miss doing. When this is done I believe our priorities will be different. I believe how we spend our time will be different. I think our perception of what living is will be different. Yet it's ok to miss things. It's ok to feel. It's ok not to be perfect at home schooling. It's ok not to repaint your whole house. It's ok to cry. It's ok to be scared. It's ok to hurt... and it's ok to be happy too. It's ok to enjoy the time away from the schedule. It's ok to sleep in. It's ok to do nothing. All of it. All of it is ok. What isn't ok? Not paying attention to the warnings. Not staying home when you can because you are suppose to. Not adhering to the guidelines. Not being aware that you can be where one strain of this spread stops. We matter. This is not a game. This is not a drill. Time to be a part of the solution.
Believe in the Unbelievable that is YOU and my prayer for you today is that you realize you can do your part and that your part is just as important as everyone's.
Have a blessed and healthy week.
Thursday, March 26, 2020
Over the past few days I've received many emails with questions. Some are anxiety filled, some are fear filled, and others are simply questions about the unknown. One that struck me was "How many days will pass before we get to be ourselves again?" It resonated with me because I wasn't aware that we couldn't be ourselves. Actually I was hoping that when all this is done we come out better than ever, and during this time we reflect on things we get to be better at. Maybe, just maybe, this isn't so much a wakeup call, but a call in general. A call to just notice things. A call to be more aware and thankful. A call to remember, to find, to realize our actual calling. Maybe we realize we don't have to keep up with our neighbors. Maybe we understand that our children don't have to be in every activity out there. Maybe we see them growing by being kids and doing those things they really love. Maybe we will see that in ourselves. Maybe you need inspiration. Look around. I have seen more people running, walking, playing outside. Now, it is happening in their driveway or in their yards, but it is happening. I saw someone painting on their fence with their kids. I saw someone working in their garden. When I say someone I actually mean people that are normally running 100 miles an hour and they don't have time to do those things usually, or so they thought. See that is just it. We put so much emphasis on time and often say we don't have enough of it.That is on us isn't it? That is all by choice. We might just realize what we want our time to be filled with when this is done. We are going to come out of this and have some big things to decide. Do we go back to being too busy making a living we forget to live? Do we go back to packing our kids schedules with things we want that we don't let them be kids and play? Do we pack our evenings with social event after social event that we don't get home in time to tuck in our kids, to read to them, to pray with them, to eat with them? When will be ourselves again? I'm finding that we are becoming more of who we really are, now more than ever.
Believe In The Unbelievable that is YOU and my prayer for you today is that you find comfort in the pause and you let yourself appreciate the opportunity to do and become what God needs you to be right now.
Have a blessed and healthy day.
Tuesday, March 24, 2020
What choice do we have? I keep hearing that said over and over. We have a lot of choices right now. Do as we are told to bend the curve. Call people we miss. Sit and catch up on reading and writing. Organize. Spend time with those you are blessed to be quarantined with. Those of us still working... Work with a grateful heart as some don't have jobs. Choose not to take for granted all the people who are doing all they can to try and hold you, us, up. Be appreciative of those out there because we need them to be including medical, police, military, fire fighters. Be thankful for teachers finding new ways to enrich our kids, and for schools doing their best to still provide food and resources. Attend an online church service. Maybe you've wanted to go, but hesitated. Now is your chance. Have some quiet time to reflect on what is essential and what you REALLY miss, so, when this is done you no longer take it for granted. Think about where we are and think about what we get to do when this is done. Choose good. Choose light. Choose to be a positive influence and to put others first. Pay close attention to all the good that may be a blip on the radar amidst all the negative that tends to be so much more exciting to report. Look around at people doing more and giving more. Look at your leaders, your mentors, your rocks. Watch them and don't forget there are those watching you for inspiration and motivation. Reconnect with God. Reconnect with your blessings. Reconnect with yourself. Reconnect with what really matters and what life and living everyday to the fullest means to you now more than ever.
What choice do we have? I'd say we have plenty.
What choices are you going to be making today?
Believe in the Unbelievable that is YOU and my prayer for you today is you allow yourself to see what is really before you. That you let God in so you can see all those things, those people, those moments you may have been so busy before that you missed.
Have a blessed and healthy day and choose happy.
Monday, March 23, 2020
Many years ago one of my mentors gave me this prayer to say. It has become a part of my daily routine to start my day and helps ground me in what I need to do. Now with even longer days, longer hours, with people doing jobs maybe they didn't think they would, with people stepping up, stepping out and being asked to deliver, to perform, to give, to sacrifice, to serve... I thought I would share it with all of you.
Stay healthy, stay smart, stay kind, stay aware and remember we are in it together and we have God as our guide every step of the way.
Believe in the Unbelievable that is YOU and have a blessed and healthy week.
Prayer to St. Joseph the Worker
Glorious Saint Joseph,
pattern of all who are devoted to toil, obtain for me the grace to toil in the spirit of penance, in order thereby to atone for my many sins; to toil conscientiously, putting devotion to duty before my own inclinations; to labor with thankfulness and joy, deeming it an honor to employ and to develop, by my labor, the gifts that I have received from Almighty God; to work with order, peace, moderation, and patience, without ever shrinking from weariness and difficulties; to work above all with a pure intention and with detachment from self, having always before my eyes the hour of death and the accounting which I must then render of time ill-spent, of talents unemployed, of good undone, and of my empty pride in success, which is so fatal to the work of God. All for Jesus, all through Mary, all in imitation of thee, O Patriarch Joseph! This shall be my motto in life and in death.
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