"Intentional Listening"
Recently I was listening to someone vent about some things going on in their world. They told me they just wanted to be better. Then they dropped the bomb; some of their frustrations I had created. They were visibly upset, and I thought to help them I'll offer my thoughts. It took me a minute to realize that the more I talked the worse I was making it. I asked them to help me understand why, and the answer was that I was talking to make myself feel better not them. Essentially they didn't need me to talk at all, but to listen. To listen and be there present in that moment as a shoulder, not a mouth. How often do we miss those moments because we involuntarily shut down and become defensive when we hear it's about us? We want to justify our actions rather than look for ways to be better. Sometimes we need to simply be there for our kids, spouse, our friends, a coworker. They don't need us to take action, but be intentional in our active listening. Let them navigate their thoughts, anger, hurt and be there at the end of that tunnel. Remember they just want to be better, and in coming to you they hope you will listen to how you can be too.
Believe In The Unbelievable that is YOU and my prayer for you today is a simple one. "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing." (1 Thessalonians 5:11)
Have a blessed week everyone.
David "DC" Carrizales
"All things are possible if you believe." Mark 9:23
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